Online Dating Websites

With the popularity of the internet, meeting people has become easier than ever. Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, and all other social networking websites are great for meeting new people. These websites though aren’t really suited for online dating. That’s not to say that it can’t be done, it’s just a lot less likely to meet someone there specifically looking for a relationship. A great alternative is joining an online dating website. A lot of them require some sort of paid member ship although there are plenty of free ones out there. The problem here is the majority of these websites have a large number of men compared to women so if you are a man, your profile really has to stand out. The advice below should help out both genders if you plan on making an online dating profile.

Take your profile picture into consideration. Don’t just throw any picture up there and don’t use one from 3+ years ago either. The more recent the picture is the better. Putting up pictures of yourself outdoors or out doing things with friends will show that your active and have things going on and not just someone who sits in front of their computer way too much. Avoid focusing too much on your achievements and hobbies instead state how you feel about them. Explain why you like doing the certain things you do. Women especially are a lot more likely to respond to emotion.

When you send out your first contact message, don’t send out something simple like hey or what’s up. The majority of contact messages say something along those lines so more than likely yours will just end up ignored. Your message should be tailored specifically to his or her profile. Tell them exactly what it was about their profile that you liked and what attracted you to them.  Even with the best profile and message you can’t guarantee you will get a response, but doing these basic steps greatly increases your chances of getting a reply.

Abusive Relationships

Domestic abuse and violence can happen to anyone and is a problem that is often overlooked. Although women are more likely to be the ones abused, domestic violence does not discriminate. It can happen among heterosexual or same-sex partnerships within all ages, ethnic backgrounds, and economic levels.  An abuser can use anything from fear, guilt, intimidation, or even physical violence to keep you under their control. They might even threaten to hurt those close to you. The emotional consequences from abusive relationships can be severe, destroying your sense of self-worth or even leading to depression and causing you to struggle with future relationships in your life. The bottom line is abuse is never alright, whether it’s coming from a man or a woman.

Do you feel afraid of your partner?

Does your partner criticize or humiliate you?

Controls where you go and what you do?

Do you feel like you can’t do anything right for your partner?

All these and many more are signs that you could be in an abusive relationship. Most women are afraid of the repercussions they might suffer if they try leaving their partner or think “it’s only happened once he won’t do it again“. Domestic violence never goes away and your partner won’t just change their ways. You need to get yourself out of that situation as fast as possible. The book listed in the ad below is a great resource for women about all the red flags and signs of abusive relationships and how these women dealt with them. It teaches women how to take responsibility for their own safety and how to choose their partner wisely. It is available on Amazon in paperback or Kindle editions and is highly recommend if you or anyone you know is in an abusive relationship or you just want more information about the topic. Anyone having trouble viewing the ad can click HERE

Depression in Relationships

I received an email from a reader who had a problem with her husband’s depression and how it was affecting their relationship and figured it would be a good topic to cover for any of those who might be in the same situation. Let’s start by explaining exactly what depression is. Depression put simply is a constant feeling of sadness or hopelessness. People with depression are usually unmotivated to do just about anything and even simple tasks become large obstacles. Many researchers believe that depression is caused by chemical changes in the brain, possibly caused by a problem with your genes or triggered by certain stressful life events. Anyone can develop depression, even children. People with depression usually have a more negative attitude about things and can’t imagine problems being solved in a positive way. Some other symptoms of depression are listed below.

• Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
• Fatigue and lack of energy
• Trouble sleeping or too much sleeping
• Loss of interest or pleasure in activities that were once enjoyed
• Difficulty concentrating, remembering, or making decisions 

Our reader’s problem was that she was with her husband for over 6 years and was starting to lose attraction towards him. He was on medication for the depression, but he just wasn’t the same man he used to be. He had stopped doing a lot of what he used to love to do and they barely communicated anymore. When they did talk it was over simple things like work. She stuck with him but over time lost feelings for him and needed advice on whether she should stick with him or move on with her life.

If you are in a similar situation you need to ask yourself, would you be with this person if they improved? If things went back to how they were, would the attraction for him/her come back? If the answer is no, you need to move on with your life. Sit them down and explain to them what the problem is and the effect it’s having on your relationship. Be honest with them, but be gentle as their depression is not their fault or something they can control. You only get one life, you need to do what makes you happy first. The link below will take you to a website with great information about depression for anyone interested in learning more about it.

PubMed Health : Depression

 

Places to Meet Women #2

Thanks to the suggestion from one of our readers, we bring you another segment of Top 5 Places to meet women.

The Laundromat

Ask her to borrow some detergent or for some washing tips.

Religious Centers

An easy opener here is asking if she enjoyed the service.

Online

With the world becoming more technology dependant, more people are starting to create online dating profiles.

Movie Theaters

Easy opener is to bring up the movie she bought tickets for or just saw and ask her about it.

Waiting in Lines

Doesn’t matter what your in line for, people usually hate waiting in long lines. This gives you the opportunity to open up with a joke about the wait and gives you plenty of time to chat until the line gets going.

Qualities Men Look For In Women

Just like women have specific traits they look for in a man, men have specific traits they look for in women. In our last post we covered the qualities women look for in a man, so this time we have the top qualities men look for in a woman. Not every man likes the same things but these seem to be the most popular traits they look for in their future wife/girlfriend.

1. She has a life of her own

2. She can take a joke

3. Intelligent

4. Honest and Loyal

5. Keeps up her appearance

6. Self-confidence

7. Does little things to show she cares

8. Mature and well spoken

9. Nurturing

10. Sexy without being trampy

Qualities Women Want In a Man

If you want to be the man women want, you have to know what it is that women want in a man. Do you know what qualities a woman wants in her man? We have listed the top 10 below. Do keep in mind that no two women are alike, but the qualities listed below are fairly universal and are listed in no particular order.

1. Honesty

2. Intelligence

3. Loyalty

4. Sense of humor

5. Reliability

6. Respect

7. Romance

8. Confidence

9. Communication

10. Passion

Break Up Signs

Have you recently gone through a break up? Was everything going ok then out of the blue they gave you the " It's not you it's me " line? Most of the break up signs were probably there right in front of you but you weren't able to notice them. Below we have listed possible signs that your significant other might give off that a breakup is coming. If you can catch them in time, it might still be possible to save your relationship.


1. Lack of contact

2. Big changes to their daily routine

3. Increased frequency in arguments

4. Low physical intimacy

5. Keeping secrets

6. Extra flirty around others

7. Everything seems to annoy them

8. Emotionally distant

9. Lack of communication

10. Either party seems constantly unhappy