Most men would do anything to get their ex-girlfriend back. In some cases, this is possible if you approach the situation rationally. The problem here is that most men won’t sit down and make a plan on how to try and win her back. Don’t be one of them. Don’t just run to your ex-girlfriend crying with flowers in your hands, this is a technique that only works in the movies. Sit-down and make a plan on how you are going to approach the situation. If you are trying to successfully get your ex-girlfriend back, try not to make any of the mistakes listed below.
Begging and Pleading
Not only will this not work, it’s also a good way to push your ex-girlfriend away from you. Begging her to be with you will have you coming off as being desperate and needy which is something no girl wants to deal with. Not to mention the possibility of losing all respect with her.
Contacting her too often or too soon
One of the biggest mistakes men make in my opinion is contacting your ex too often or too soon. It’s common to think that if you don’t contact her that she’s going to think you’ve moved on. Actually, quite the opposite is true. Not contacting her will make her think about you and wonder why you aren’t speaking to her and what you are doing, thereby increasing the chances of her contacting you. Nonstop calls and messages will just make her feel embarrassed and more than likely just end up getting your number blocked.
Playing the Blame Game
Don’t argue over why the break up happened. Just accept that it did. Telling her it was her fault or bringing up her faults is only going to make her defensive and frustrate her even more with you. That doesn’t mean you have to agree with everything she says, but if you do discuss the break up, do it in a friendly non accusatory tone. Don’t put all the blame on yourself either. Approach it as a “we” situation.
Negative Talk
This is one of your biggest enemies when it comes to getting your ex girlfriend back. You need to believe you CAN and WILL get her back. The more you talk down to yourself (I’m not good enough, It’s all my fault, etc.) the more depressed and angry you will become. You need to think positively if you are to succeed in getting her back.
Isolating Yourself
Take some time after the break up to go out and have fun. Do some of the things you enjoyed doing while you were single. She fell in love with the confident guy who knew how to have fun, not the guy moping around in his pajamas on the couch. Going out and having fun will make her realize that you don’t NEED to be with her but WANT her. This is a huge step in getting your ex girlfriend back.
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