The backhanded compliment, an extremely useful skill if done right.
A complete nightmare if done wrong. Few people can actually pull
it off, but with some practice you will be able to as well. Lets start
with the basics first. What is a backhanded compliment?
To
put it simply a backhanded compliment is an insult disguised as a
compliment. The way they work in dating is that they are intended to
make the other person laugh or smile. You are not really trying to
insult the person but more so tease them. This is why it requires a
certain amount of skill to pull off. If done wrong it will be seen as
just an insult and most likely ruin your chances. But if done right it
can do wonders for you.
A great example is
“You've got to be among the top 10 women/men in here”. You are
complimenting them by saying they look great, but you are "teasing"
them by saying they are in the top 10. For most people this will make
them think and bring up a response to where they will try to prove their
worth to you in a way, thereby making them end up chasing you instead
of you chasing them.
This example usually works
better for teens or younger adults but if its something you are into it
should work for any age. It is tricky to pull off since the mood and
timing has to be right but if you can pull it off it can easily help you
set up a date. It's best done if you two are already laughing and
having fun.
"Yeah you're a great driver, for a woman."
"What!? I'm a great driver!
"Oh yeah? Prove it."
"How?"
"This weekend, at the go kart track, just me and you, show me those great driving skills."
"Your on! I bet I'm a better driver than you"
If
you are unsure about this technique, it’s best not to use it. But if you have a
good attitude about it and pick your spots then it can be one of your
best assets.
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