Why She Hasn't Called Back

So you went out on a date with an amazing woman. Everything was going great and you thought she was really into you. You leave her a message the next day telling her that you had a great time and hope to take her out again soon. Now it’s been days since your last date and you haven’t heard from her. Why hasn’t she called? Is she busy? Not interested? Hasn’t gotten your message? Maybe you think you called her too soon.

The answer however is that she most likely didn’t feel about the date the same way that you did. Why? You didn’t connect with her on an emotional level. While most men focus on getting a first date, a second date is equally important. When you ask her out on a first date, you are trying to distinguish yourself from all the other guys hitting on her. You have to give her a reason to pick you to go out with. The same rules apply when you are on your date, when the date is over and she goes home, she needs to feel like she made a connection with you.

You get her to call back by making her feel connected to you, whether this is by sharing a laugh, a moment, or an experience. Men feel connected by sharing activities while women feel connected by sharing stories and emotions. How do you connect with her? Talk to her like you would with a friend. Pay attention to the details of what she says. Remember the names of places, people, or pets she mentions. Make your phone call personal. Instead of saying something like “Hey I had fun last night we should do it again”, go with something along the lines of “Hey I enjoyed our conversation about your trip to Mexico last summer. I know a great place that serves the best Mexican food that I’d like to take you to this weekend”. Let her know you aren’t like all the other guys. Give her a reason to want to call you back.